How?!

So recently I've had a couple of moms ask me how do I have time to get my hair done, how do I keep it together when patience is at zero, have the time to do this and that. Well ladies, the key to all of this is DO IT WHEN THEY'RE SLEEPING! Alex has 2 naps during the day; After his breakfast and around 4pm. His naps are 40 minutes to an hour long. I have more than enough time to zoom through everything. First off, I have breakfast with him, No I am not going to wait for him to go to sleep or starve myself because he "doesn't let me" No! Your baby needs to learn to behave and eat with mommy. Don't go all psycho and yell at your baby or get frustrated it'll make things worse. Understand they are still very little and don't grasp on the concept of "mommy isn't going anywhere". Yes, Alex still does cry every now and then when I get up and walk away from him when I have to get a napkin, or a glass of water. Know what I do? I talk to him, I say "Mommy is going to get (whatever it is), so I can sit with you and eat yummy (whatever it is I made). I started doing this not too long ago and it is working. I'll admit sometimes it doesn't but patience is a virtue. I put Doc McStuffin's or Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and we have our breakfast. Please note that breakfast is the MOST important meal of the day, so feed your baby anything that'll give them the boost they need to take on the beautiful day!

So once Alex goes down for nap number one, I take a quick shower and then start to clean the entire house. Occasionally I finish before he wakes up, but even when he wakes up in the middle of my cleaning I just let him hang out in his crib a little. I don't have him used to getting picked up right away, unless he is crying. Then I'd budge and pick him up to soothe him. REMEMBER the chemicals you are using to clean are very toxic to our angels. Open the windows and turn on a fan to eliminate the poison your baby is breathing.  Now the house is clean and Alex is ready to crawl on a nice clean floor :D So once he wakes up around noon, it's lunch time for both of us! I wait an hour after feeding and take him a bath (Alex's happy place). He enjoys bath time! He splashes, laughs and sometimes screams of joy lol. I take advantage of bath time and do my hair. If you follow me on Instagram you'll notice majority of my pictures my hair is soaked in mouse, curled and I stick bobby pins in it. It is the easiest and fastest thing to do specially when my kid is being a handful. BAM! My hair is done. It's 1:30pm and DADDY'S HOME! Whoo-hoo! I think it's safe to say we all feel a little bit of weight coming off your shoulders when your husband is home to help. In my case not right away. See, my fiance works from 4am-1pm, when he comes home I have a hot plate waiting for him and a fixed bed waiting for him to lay down and take a nap. For those stay at home mommies with a hard working man, y'all understand when your man needs to rest before coming to the rescue! It gets frustrating because you just want ONE second to sit down and put your feet up) is it too much to ask for?) but hey, it'll get worse before it gets better. 

My friend Tehani gave us this kick-ass rocking chair. It is a miracle worker when it comes to putting Alex to sleep! If you don't have one, GET ONE! Anyway, I bought Alex many books to read so when I need to get dressed I sit him in his crib (so I don't have to run after him every time) and give him a book, he plays with it for about five minutes but its enough time to moisturise and get dressed. So now were both dressed. See how going with the flow works? I go out A LOT, I hate being home. WHY? Because I feel stressed and tired. Even if I go out for 20 minutes around the block with Alex in his stroller I feel liberated and like a new person. I think that helped me get through the first three months. Anyway, I love to shop! I shop til I drop cause I cant stop! (I'm a cornball) I make sure Alex is fed before I go, that way it gives me three hours before he starts asking for milk and a nap after that. Yes, it is hard to shop with a baby but you know, sometimes its not that bad! So by the time I get home its close to 6pm and I have to make dinner for my boys. Occasionally we go out to eat but if we have the food to prepare at home, we don't waste money. After dinner, at 7pm Alex is ready for bath number two. Why two baths you may ask? Because like mentioned in my previous blog, I AM CRAZY with being clean. I don't feel like cleaning him up in wipes does justice. I feel like he is still sticky and lets not forget he is teething, so he drools all over himself, ugh no. Alex you're going to take another bath. Once that's over, we play with toys and watch what's on Disney Channel. I have not watched my favorite shows in ages! But I'm not complaining, I have to give up something. Calling me crazy? Naaaah, I could care less now, I've missed a million episodes of The Game, 2 Broke Girls, Repeats of FRIENDS. Id rather watch my son explore and soak it all in. Motherhood is truly beautiful. Alex goes to sleep at 10:30pm sometimes 11pm. We read a book together while having a warm bottle and rock back and forth on our miracle chair. Once he is K.O I take a shower and then pick up all of his toys, clean his bottles (Sanitize them every night!) and then go to sleep. I can't stay up past midnight, I think you can all agree with me when I say "Ending the night mentally and physically exhausted". 

Moms, don't make excuses as to why you cant do a certain thing. Observe your baby's schedule, see what works for you! Unless you have two kids then maybe, but my sister has two kids and she is a super mom! Why should you throw on a t-shirt and sweats when you could grab a cute silk top and shorts or a decent pair of jeans with cute sandals or flats? Your man could be passing by other moms who DO take the time to look good and think to himself "Damn" No my friend, that could be you. Lets get it together girls! Okay yes, I did and sometimes do throw on a casual T-shirt, jeans and sneakers but ALL that is about to change. I stopped making excuses for myself to not be able to grab a pretty top rather than a typical v neck. My fiance needs a woman, not a girl who looks like she just came out of High School. Anyone with me on this change? 

So that wraps up this chapter, What should I talk about next? Comment on my Instagram page to let me know! Goodnight! 

Lets start off with..

Getting to know me, I think that's more of a start to those who don't know me on a personal level. I'm not going to pretend I'm an awesome blogger because I'm not, but I can promise I will try to keep up with it as much as I can. Anyway LETS BEGIN!
So, for those who don't know, I am a mother to a 9 month old boy named Alexander, And boy is he a BIG small handful when it comes down to it! Btw he is the cause of my "I feel like starting a blog" thing. I don't know why I did since I don't even have the time to make myself a decent lunch nowadays, I come up with this idea.

Here is my BIG bundle of joy, he was about five months? I'm not quite sure, I take TONS of pictures (Who could blame me) I am pretty sure your iPhone has probably reached maximum capacity once or twice recording every single move of your little tot. We just had a doctors visit for his monthly check-up and he is 20 pounds of pure deliciousness! and is the size of a one year old, yikes! 

Being a mom sure taught me a heck of responsibility and patience. I was more of a free spirited person, I had no worries for anyone but MYSELF! (God, I miss those days) Free time? I don't even know the word anymore, what is it like to relax? Want to know what really came in handy? My incredible disgusting OCD! I have a problem with NOT disinfecting everything in sight. I can't put Alex in a shopping cart at Target without running a wet wipe all over the handle bar and seat. I'd rather have someone look at me completely insane than to know my son has his hands in his mouth after having them all over the rail. Have you ever stopped to think the person who previously had it could've had a cold, a flu or just had their finger up their nose! EWW! Alright, you get it.

Change of subject, things I enjoy: Laundry, I love to do laundry. Is it just me or do you like to get stains out too? I have no problem letting Alex dump sweet potato purée all over his brand new white T. I have an obsession with Pinterest! WHY? Because it is also loaded with crazy super moms posting recipes of "Stain Removers"! I mixed Blue Dawn soap with Hydrogen Peroxide and let it sit on the stain and BAM! Came right off. Hmmm, I make ALL of Alex's food. I am crazy when it comes to my sons health and nutrition. NO SUGAR! Once you give them a taste of it, they're gone forever. But to each his own. DENTAL! I love my teeth, I floss after every meal and brush twice a day. I cant stress it enough when I say your smile is your best feature. What will you do when your teeth start to fall off? be embarrassed? Never smile? NO! Take care of them! That's why, Alex is going to hate me, but in the end he'll thank me for it. I brush his teeth and I will soon start to try to floss (Patience is all I need) That's if he'll let me, but brushing will just do.

Lets not forget to mention STORAGE and ORGANIZATION! I am a mad woman when it comes to that. I have to have everything in a place. I'd drag you down with me to the deep wonders of my obsession with organizing but I am pretty sure you will get bored. But I have no problem coming over and doing it for you. I will get whatever you need straightened out! Do you think I'm crazy yet? Lol.

Lets go deeper into the personal level. I wanted to go to school for the Culinary Arts, too bad it was $43,000! I'm sure it would have been worth every penny, but oh well. Umm, I have a fiancé named Robert, I love him beyond measure. He is a GREAT dad, never would have imagined to end up with my childhood crush. I met him at the age of 8. Man, was he a cutie! So, I'd beat him up and tease him all the time. Probably isn't the best way to show a boy you have a crush on them. Anyway in 2002 my parents decided to move to Florida for a "better lifestyle", I was ANGRY! but you know, looking back at it I thank them for taking me, my brother and sisters out of what could have been a disaster for our future.

In August of 2011 I took a vacation to New York and guess who I run into? Mr. Robert, man did time do him good! So, we made plans for the next day for a stroll in Central Park. Oct 25 he asked me to be his girlfriend. Skipping tooooooooo December of that year and my plans of moving to the big apple was ruined, long story short my aunt bailed on me. So Robert's mom offered to let me stay in her house, I had the best time living there for the year that I was there. 

Until I got pregnant and things took a hard left. I moved back to Florida, I was a ball of tears. To be honest it was the best move I did. My son is in safe surroundings, I don't have to worry about shootings and best of all he can ride a bike down the street without a car coming full speed or getting mugged. Robert moved three months after I did, he wanted to be with "the love of his life" and be a family than to be miserable and alone. I was very happy and my family welcomed him with open arms. He found a great job here working on Disney grounds and is very content with his new life here in the sunshine state. I may have changed his life for the better and his mom thanks me more than enough for giving his son everything he needed in life, a wife. 

Lets see, I have a two year old stepson did I mention that? His name is Joel. He is a spitting image of Robert. Handsome, clumsy, sweet and he won my heart over in just one second, I love him as my own. Sadly I don't see him, except through Facetime when hes over grandmas house. Unfortunately his mother and I don't exactly get long. I have "Baby momma Drama" and its really unnecessary because we should get along for our kids. My son deserves to know his brother and you know, later in life they will look for each other. So why not? This picture was taken the first day I held him. He was looking up at me smiling, I couldn't get enough of that sweet face! I could just eat him up!

 Anyway I hope you can sort of get an idea of who I am. I am just a mom living day by day on this wonderful journey god has blessed me with. Like I said previously, I will try to keep up with the blog, now that we got this part out of the way, prepare for the next chapter of my survival with my BIG small soon to be Tot :D Until next time!